4 Signs That Your Emotional Vampires Is Draining You Dry?

The term emotional vampire emerged in self-help books as a didactic metaphor to designate a group of individuals with a very marked personality trait or with certain mental disorders that result in the attrition of those who cross their path.

Emotional vampires may or may not be aware of their behavior’s, which is sometimes due to a lack of empathy and sometimes to their own need, just as vampires in literature need to feed on the blood of their victims.

Is your energy constantly being drained by emotional vampires? The people around us affect how we feel and view the world. There are plenty of reasons why some people may drain your energy more than others. You could be dealing with a narcissist, or someone who complains most of the time.

If you have an emotional vampire draining you dry, it’s time to start protecting your energy. Below, you’ll discover how to recognize the signs of an emotional vampire, and the best ways to protect your energy.

Understanding The Different Types of Emotional Vampires

Emotional vampires come in a variety of forms. They include:

  • Victims
  • Narcissists
  • Constant talkers
  • Controllers
  • Drama queens

Each type of emotional vampire will leave you feeling tired and deflated after being in their company. Victim emotional vampires are the people who always play the victim, even when they are the perpetrator. Narcissists are only interested in their own thoughts and feelings, while constant talkers drain your mental energy.

Most of us know at least one type of emotional vampire in our lives. Not sure how to identify them? There are a few signs to watch out for…

Tell-Tale Signs You Are Dealing with An Emotional Vampire

There are several tell-tale signs that can help you decide if you’re dealing with an emotional vampire. The main signs to watch out for include:

  • You feel mentally exhausted after spending time with them.
  • You feel depressed or anxious around them.
  • You feel like they are putting you down.
  • You turn to comfort eating or drinking alcohol after being around them.

Everyone who encounters an emotional vampire will feel at least one of the things above. You basically don’t feel great when you spend time with them.

Protecting Your Energy

If you are dealing with an emotional vampire, how can you stop them from draining your energy? The good news is there are strategies you can use to deal with them. First, if you can, you should distance yourself from the person. Avoiding being around an emotional vampire is the best way to stop them negatively impacting you. However, this isn’t always possible.

If you can’t distance yourself, make sure you are practicing self-care. Taking care of yourself will allow you to feel more confident to set healthy boundaries. You will naturally be more assertive and protective over your time. So, if you don’t already, set aside time every day to focus on you. Pamper yourself, take care of your own needs first, and watch how your energy and tolerance changes for negative people.

If you are really struggling to handle an emotional vampire in your life, you can also turn to therapy. Seeking help from a professional will enable you to understand why you can’t deal with the problem, as well as provide solutions that can help.

Emotional vampires are everywhere today. It isn’t always possible to get away from them immediately, but there are things you can do in the meantime to protect yourself and your energy. Don’t forget to follow us on facebookInstagramPinterest and twitter. Visit our shop to get our digital products.

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2 Comments Add yours

  1. taziekbiz says:

    What is the cause of emotional vampire? I think it is new kind of mental disorder. What is different with temperamental?

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    1. Mostly the causes of an emotional vampire are: pessimism, self-centeredness, narcissism, immaturity, lack of empathy. The main problem caused by emotional vampires is that not only are they capable of clouding the atmosphere for the duration of their presence, but, as we relate to them on a daily basis, they end up generating high levels of stress and emotional fatigue.

      What differentiates them from temperamental people are: they are driven by their temperament, they do not put filters on their actions and are guided by deep emotions (which can be both positive and negative). They usually do not give much space to rational behaviors in a conscious way. A temperamental person is thus someone who acts according to his or her impulses without measuring the consequences, who can show either too much anger or too much joy without finding a middle ground.

      I hope my answer was understandable. If you have any further comments, don’t hesitate to ask. 😄


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