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If you have lost someone, the process of grief is very complicated and complex. Some
people go through the 5 stages of grief, while other people have 7 stages of grief, and
only deal with some of what others experience. Grief is universal. People often describe grief as passing through 5 or 7 stages. The 5 stages are denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. The 7 stages elaborate on these and aim to address the complexities of grief more effectively. They include feelings of guilt.

You might also find some unexpected things happen when you are grieving and going through the healing process.

1-There is No “Getting Over it”

Remember that there is no point where you are suddenly over your grief. It will start
getting better, hurt less, and you will be sad less often, but you will never forget the loss
you have endured. This is one of the unexpected things of going through a major loss
that causes a lot of grief. That grief creeps up on you in the most unusual and unexpected ways. You might be fine for months, then suddenly a long movie comes
on that immediately brings you back to how you felt when you first lost that person or
the traumatic event occurred.

2-Grief Comes Back in Waves

As mentioned, it comes back in waves, sometimes at odd moments. You might
expect to be reminded of that person when you hear their favorite song, but what you
might not expect is that at certain times of the year, you just feel sad or depressed. It isn’t always apparent right away, but it is like your mind and body know the time of year
before you do. Maybe you always get a serious wave of grief around the time you two
first met, or before you realize it was the first day your child went to school. You often tie these moments of grief to something significant in your life that you shared with that
person you lost.

3-You Find People Who Understand and Support

Another unexpected thing? Some people you thought would be your support system
are, but other more unexpected people end up being your saving grace. Not everyone
handles other people’s grief in the way you think they would, and there is nothing wrong with that. Though you might be surprised by the people who step up and are always there for you, providing the right kind of emotional support that you need.

4-In Grief, You Experience Many Different Emotions

With severe grief, you will go through a lot of different emotions, often in the same
period. Sadness and depression are to be expected, but what you might not
expect is the amount of confusion, frustration, anger, irritability, and downright rage over what has happened. You must seek professional help if you feel like you can’t keep your emotions under control and it is affecting your quality of life.

Grief is an unfortunate but inevitable part of life. Whether due to the death of a loved one (this type of grief is referred to as bereavement), losing a job, or any other significant life change, grief is the universal response to dealing with loss.

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