It seems difficult to believe that people might do things not in their best interests. This behavior sometimes happens again and again. Don’t people want to do what’s best for them? Why would anyone knowingly take action in a way that has caused them some negative outcome in the past and threatens to do the same thing again?

This is what self-sabotage is. It’s frustrating because it’s often repetitive. A person continues to make decisions that produce a less-than-enjoyable result. Sometimes the person is so aware of what’s going on that they will jokingly refer to the problems they will face if they act in some way (or don’t act).

This happens because when we continually make choices that don’t produce the greatest results, we are often driven by psychological or emotional influences. This can make it tough to spot self-defeating behavior. If you want to create more positive results in your life, keep an eye out for these three common patterns of self-sabotage.

1 – Being a Perfectionist

You might think that attempting to be perfect is a positive trait. It really isn’t. The people that succeed at the highest levels in their fields understand that they always need to push themselves, but they are also aware that perfection doesn’t exist.

You can always improve in some way. It makes sense to strive to improve in areas of your life because you know this can improve the quality of your life. That’s admirable.

A problem develops when this becomes an all-or-nothing mindset. It keeps you from taking action or getting involved in opportunities because before you even get started, you don’t see the potential for a perfect outcome.

2 – Embracing Extremes

Perhaps you never say no when a friend asks a favor. Before you know it, you have so many responsibilities that your life suffers. You place others before your needs. Maybe you lack moderation in some other way. Moderation helps you avoid self-sabotage that can cause problems in many aspects of your life.

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3 – Trying to Do It All Yourself

We all need help from time to time. The self-saboteur refuses to admit this. If you don’t get help when needed, this can lead to failure. You have no one to blame if turning to your friends or loved ones for help is all you would have needed to be successful instead.

Remember that perfection doesn’t exist in the human condition. Strive for moderation and steer clear of extremes. Get help when you need it. These are simple ways to avoid destructive and damaging behavior that can keep you from experiencing positive results.

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I’m Ludmilla

A general practitioner with experience in various fields such as writing, social media management, blogging, and marketing. Here, I invite you to join me on a journey of Wellness, Let’s Get Healthy Together!

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